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I don\u2019t do well with stress. Even minor inconveniences can throw me off my game, turning a mildly bad day into a complete five-alarm fire. If someone asks a single thing of me during one of these spirals, I\u2019m likely to blow up.<\/p>\n

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Whether you\u2019ve woken up on the wrong side of the bed or an avalanche of calamities happens to descend upon you, it\u2019s easy to get bogged down by negativity, to feel like a black cloud hangs over your head. Anyone who\u2019s had a bad day can attest to how these feelings can ripple out to other aspects of your life: You\u2019re curt with the barista and they\u2019re rude in return, you throw your bag down forcefully at your desk and break your glass Tupperware inside, you snap at your partner and they get annoyed. \u201cWhen you\u2019re in a bad mood, it shows up in your behavior and it shows up in your facial expressions and it shows up in your tone of voice and you might end up actually eliciting negativity from others unintentionally that way,\u201d Ryan Martin, a psychologist who has studied anger and the author of Emotion Hacks: 50 Ways to Feel Better Fast<\/em>, tells Vox.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Rather than lashing out at every unsuspecting soul who crosses your path, Martin outlines four tactics to help you defang your rage during those days when everyone at work needs something from you, your basement floods, and your best friend is mad at you.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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1. Recognize that you\u2019re crabby<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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When people are having a bad day, they tend to let that negativity inform how they perceive everything moving forward, Martin says. \u201cIt becomes a lens that they look through, and they start to interpret a lot of events as being negative, even neutral things,\u201d he says. \u201cOr they fail to recognize some of the positive things that happened along the way.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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By acknowledging I am having a bad day<\/em>, you can stop the cycle of negativity and consider what concrete actions you could take to improve your mood.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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2. Think about what has actually gone wrong (and what\u2019s gone right)<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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One of those concrete steps is to pay attention to the things that have actually gotten under your skin and determine if they really are day-ruining, or merely inconveniences. \u201cPart of what happens for people is when they get down\u2026 they get hung up on the things that they\u2019re upset about, and they start to catastrophize a little bit,\u201d Martin says.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Be realistic and consider whether the traffic you\u2019re in will actually cause you to lose your job, or just make you a few minutes late. (It\u2019s entirely possible you might lose your job, and a mindset shift won\u2019t make that less stressful!) But maybe there are other things about your day that are going well: you enjoyed your breakfast and got out the door on time. Those are worth acknowledging, too.<\/p>\n

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3. Take control where you can<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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On days when it seems like absolutely nothing is going your way, it can be easy to feel like bad things are happening to<\/em> you in a world where you have no agency. There certainly are scenarios \u2014 say, getting a flat tire \u2014 where things are largely out of your control. But there are likely other aspects of your day where you can establish more control. Maybe it\u2019s rescheduling a meeting and taking a walk instead. Perhaps you call a friend just to say you\u2019re thinking of them. By doing this, you put a little space between the unpleasant events and everything else. \u201cI like to acknowledge that those things truly are independent of each other,\u201d Martin says. \u201cThey\u2019re bad things that just all happened all at the same time, but it isn\u2019t actually a pattern that is related to those things.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Recent research has found that taking concrete steps to manage stress is effective at minimizing negative emotions and improving mental health. And these stress-management tactics don\u2019t take a ton of time and effort either: They can look like stepping away to relax for a minute, getting a good night\u2019s sleep, practicing gratitude, or seeking out social support.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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4. Don\u2019t blow up<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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All communication skills elude me in the midst of a stressful day. Catch me at the wrong time, and I might snap. Offering a warning that you\u2019re on edge isn\u2019t a bad idea, but your delivery matters, Martin says. \u201cWhat I don\u2019t necessarily love is when someone essentially says, \u2018Hey, I\u2019m on the verge of a freakout,\u2019 and then asks me to\u2026 deal with whatever mood they\u2019re in, in a way that actually puts a lot of emotional labor on me,\u201d he says.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Rather than lashing out at a friend and saying, \u201cI\u2019m not in the mood for your jokes,\u201d Martin suggests a softer \u201cI\u2019m really struggling today, just wanted you to know,\u201d or \u201cThis day has been so awful, I\u2019d appreciate it if you had some patience with me.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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\u201cMy take is that people are often pretty good at giving people grace when things are voiced in that way,\u201d he says.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Bad days, unfortunately, are inevitable. But we don\u2019t have to make a stressful day worse. How we choose to react to stressful situations is entirely within our control.<\/p>\n

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